Finding a life partner should not be like going to a buffet.
It will surprise nobody to know that I have crippling anxiety issues. I’m awkward and get tired around people quickly. I’m intensely private and often seem cold and out of place. Nothing fills me with dread quite as much as the idea of hitting on somebody in public.
Fortunately, technology has come to our aid. While one of the millions of hours of Star Trek is playing on channel 11, I can create a dating profile on some website. I can list relevant details about me and upload this really awesome selfie of me wearing a fedora.
(That paragraph was a joke. Mostly. I do look awesome in a fedora.)
This process has caused some levels of concern. E-mails filled with potential partners are sent and you’re encouraged to peruse as if you were catalogue shopping. Will she like my taste in books? Will she be able to tolerate my family? Will she look good on my sofa? People are literally marketing themselves, reducing themselves to what they perceive to be their appealing characteristics while disguising their less appealing aspects. There’s a dehumanising aspect about the affair as people are objectified for the judgement of others.
The Bachelor — a reality show where some dopey halfwit judges has to ‘eliminate’ one girl a week until he finds a life partner — is this shallow, narcissistic view of dating beefed up to 11. It’s what happens when you take the ‘Internet Dating’ approach to intimate interaction to its extreme.